3 useful strategies for ending helping relationships



Professor Tim Bond from University of Bristol says, sometimes the helpee can consider the ending of the helping relationship as a major loss in their lives, simply because it has brought some structure for their lives and it is suddenly disappearing. 


In order to make the client feel less insecure or sad, the helper should construct effective and safe ending strategies. 

Such as, 



Strategy 1: Being compassionate and direct 

It is important not to be defensive or blaming the client for any break or termination, even if the client is difficult or not a good fit for the helper.

Discussing the ending plan at the beginning and subtly reminding about it throughout the whole relationship period.
Subtle reminder means simply reminding the boundaries without rushing the client.

Overall, preparing the client for an emotional adjustment and conclusion with compassion.


Strategy 2: Providing resources for future support 

While reaching for the end, it is a great responsibility of the helper that the client knows, this is an end to a chapter of the book, not the whole book. 

''This approach provides safety net for the client, as they navigate life post therapy. It is helpful to explain that the occasional follow up sessions are normal and can be beneficial for maintaining progress.'' 

Sometimes a client might need on going support, or a referral to another expert of specific issues. 
It is the helper's duty to provide necessary resources for the client of that sort of needs. 


Strategy 3: Reframing ending as empowering achievement 

Counsellor and director of Playa Vista Counselling, Rachel Thomasian says, she reframes termination as a graduation, rather than an ending.


Which is a brilliant way of approaching the ending! 

By reflecting on the whole relationship and objectives, it is a very healthy way to make the client show that they have truly achieved something meaningful, which can be a very empowering feeling. 


NB: This is my personal work for Level 2 certification on Counselling Skills. You are welcome to use this for learning purpose only by mentioning this website. 


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